The problem with this is that our wives soon grow bored with the routine. We know what we’re going to do, how we’re going to do it, and where we’re going to end up. You see, some of us guys treat sex like a football playbook. In fact, she may not want to wear the same outfit every other Monday. She doesn’t want to wear the same dress on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. "Jim, what I’m trying to say is that your wife appears to like a little more variety than you do. Seeing that subtlety wasn’t Jim’s strength, I decided to lay it out for him more directly. Well, she doesn’t have many sexy outfits, if that’s what you’re getting at. Well, yes, but in regard to sex, what does it mean? I’d need a calculator for her outfits, but I could count mine using my ten fingers. Now, if you counted her outfits and then counted yours, what would you find? Let me guess-business shoes, tennis shoes, and work-in-the-yard shoes.
Yeah, she has fifty pairs and I have three. When you look at the shoes, do you notice anything different? Tell me if you notice anything different. Jim, I said, I want you to go home, look at your wife’s closet, then look at yours. When I first met with Jim, I gave him a simple assignment.
It worked that one time! Why isn’t it working now? I must not be doing it soft enough (or fast enough, or some other variation). Jim would just get frustrated, thinking (but never verbalizing), I know I’m doing this right. He became so predictable that what once made her hotter than an August day now turned her into a glacier. Karen never understood why it took one hundred times of silence to overcome one moan, but that’s the way it was with Jim. While Karen really did enjoy that new touch, she learned to be conservative with her moans because once Jim heard one, he was certain to do the exact same thing for the next fifty to one hundred times they made love. He tried something new-the way he held Karen, cradled her, or tenderly touched a delicate spot-and he tuned in to her moans, thinking, Okay, this is the key this will unlock her sexual fury. Jim was always looking for (and worse, thinking he had found) the magic bullet. Hit and miss might be a pretty good description of their sex life after the honeymoon they never really got a handle on things until almost fifteen years into their marriage. Like many young couples, they had fairly unrealistic views of what sex would be like. Jim and Karen were both virgins when they got married twenty-one years ago.
0 kommentar(er)
